Cajun Fricassee with King Crab

Being born and raised in Louisiana gave me a wonderful appreciation for food. So many flavors from very simple ingredients. However, living up north for as long as I have has forced me to adapt my Cajun favorites. Boiled seafood is non-existent up here. Boudin? What’s boudin? Cracklins? Exactly.

Growing up, my mom made fricassee a lot – chicken, potato, etc. The main difference between fricassee and gumbo is the amount of liquid you end up with at the end. Gumbo is more of a soupy consistency, but fricassee is gravy to eat over rice. I prefer to eat rice and gravy.

Let me start by saying I’m not an expert on all things Cajun by any means. I can only draw on my own personal experiences growing up on what my mom cooked. That being said, let’s drill down into how I make my Cajun fricassee with a northern twist…

Both start with a flour & oil base (also known as Roux) that you brown to a rich color. After that, you add in the aromatics, liquid, seasoning, protein, etc. What I do may deviate from “the norm” but that is all based on my own experimentation and preferences. Remember that “holy trinity” of onion, celery, and carrots? Well… I personally hate celery so I never cook with it. I also don’t really like any cooked vegetables so that takes the carrots out. In every fricassee or gumbo, I always use onion. For this fricassee, I used onion, red bell pepper, and garlic.

Starting with the flour and oil base, get the mixture to a creamy texture.
NOTE: Do NOT leave this unattended. It browns really fast and the more flour you use (thicker base), the faster it cooks. Once it burns, there’s no salvaging it. You have to dump it and start over, not to mention it has a pretty foul smell.

I never measure this part. You don’t want it too thick and clumpy or too loose. It has to be a nice mix.

Next, brown it up to a nice light coffee color.

Once you get to this point, watch it very closely. It will darken in seconds.

I add in my onions, peppers and garlic (all chopped). I have also used: chopped any-color bell peppers, chopped roasted red peppers, chopped cubanelles or poblanos, and green onions. I feel like the original intention of this type of dish was to cook what was on-hand and still made a hearty meal. Based on that, I experimented until I found ingredients I really loved that gave amazing flavor.

This will clump quite a bit. That’s ok! It will mix out when you add the liquid.

Once I’ve cooked the aromatics a bit in the roux base, I start adding my liquid a little at a time to get a good blend. You can use any type of stock, water, broth, etc. I have recently started cooking with bone broth a lot so that is what I’ve used here.

A little at a time to unclump the veggies & roux. Keep whisking until it’s all nicely blended.

Once I have a good mix, I add in seasoning. In this particular batch, I added in some liquid crab boil. Please do NOT try tasting this stuff out of the jar… it is very concentrated so a little goes a long way. Just a few splashes in a large pot is enough. This gives a backend heat – the kind that isn’t in-your-face spicy but sneaks up on you. Some salt because it needs to taste good and basically anything else you want.

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***NEWSFLASH… I have never eaten File in any gumbo or fricassee. My mom never used it – so I never use it.

Back to the recipe… While this mixture simmers, I rinse off the crab. Up here, finding blue crab can be a chore so I’ve had to adapt and use other kinds. My hands-down favorite is Dungeness Crab but I couldn’t find any so I went with King Crab. Still very tasty. Most crab here is heavily salted and frozen, so I get all the ice off and make sure the outside is free from as much salt as possible. Also a good way to make sure its clean.

I put that in the pot and let it go. The longer you cook this, the better it tastes. I let this go for about an hour and the crab was already cooked. I just wanted it to taste amazing. I also added in a container of claw meat to get extra crab in there. It was on sale so why not.

I forgot to get a picture of the end so here’s a picture of what was left.

We LOVED it. It was very delicious, and the crab peeled easily (thank goodness because I forgot I didn’t have the claw crackers when I bought the king crab).

So there you have it – my Cajun Fricassee with King Crab. I use the same basic recipe and just add in chicken, sausage, potatoes, etc. I’ve also cooked pork neck bones like this. It all tastes great. Just cook it up and serve it over rice. I have discovered that my favorite rice is Jasmine and this goes really well with Jasmine rice.

What do you think?!

Recipe:

  • ½ bell pepper, chopped
  • 1 small onion, chopped
  • 1 clove garlic, chopped
  • 1 32oz container of broth, stock, or water (I used bone broth)
  • Oil & Flour (I don’t measure these but you want a well-blended, creamy consistency)
  • Liquid Crab Boil (a few splashes)
  • Salt/Pepper to taste
  • Crab
  • Other liquid as needed

Directions:

  1. Chop veggies
  2. In a pot, heat oil (about enough to almost cover the bottom)
  3. Add flour and mix to creamy texture.
  4. Continue stirring until brown.
  5. Add chopped veggies and stir for no more than a minute.
  6. Slowly add liquid until well blended.
  7. Add liquid crab and other seasonings.
  8. Add crab (you will likely need to add more liquid to partially cover the crab).
  9. Partially cover and let simmer for 45 minutes to 1 hour.
  10. Serve over rice.

Couple things to note:

  1. The type of aromatic/veggies to use is entirely up to you. If you love celery, then by all means use it, just know that it could change the flavor.
  2. I sometimes add in a half can (or full can depending on how much I’m making) of condensed soup for extra richness. Types I’ve used: Cream of Chicken, Cream of Chicken & Herbs, Cream of Mushroom, Cream of Mushroom & Herbs, Cream of Shrimp. You could probably also use Cream of Celery.

Accepting Life

Life is a journey… or something like that. The hardest part for me? Accepting that I am alone. I am a single mom and that means all the responsibilities are mine, and mine alone. There is no one else here to help with anything. It sucks, it’s stressful, and most days I feel like crying.

I come home exhausted but there is no rest. Meals have to be made, things need cleaning up, the cat needs care, all on top of my son’s homework and keeping him on track until bedtime. Unless you’ve been in these shoes, you couldn’t possibly understand the level of exhaustion a single parent deals with on a daily basis.

I had a revelation or epiphany or whatever last weekend. I read something that said “happiness starts when we accept life as it is and not as we think it should be”. I am alone. I have to accept that I am alone. I have to embrace that I am alone. My responsibilities are my own and no one is going to provide assistance. I said it out loud “I am alone” and felt a little better.

We all have to get to the point where we accept life as it is. Whether or not we’re happy with it is a different story. We’re all only one decision away from a new life. But the first step is accepting our truth and our reality. Once we do that, we are free to make any choice we want to change our lives.

I have started making changes… and we’ll see what happens from there.

Coconut Butter Shrimp

Lol! Need to try the bank account suggestion 🙂

In my attempts to eat healthier, I did some experimenting in my kitchen with coconut oil. I know, I’m late to this party but better late than never!

I first tried coconut oil with my scrambled eggs. Not an altogether horrible turnout. It did have a distinct flavor that was sort of perfumey. While eating my perfume eggs, I decided to try this with shrimp, given the popularity of coconut fried shrimp I figured this would be a good match.

Let me make it very clear first that I hate coconut. I do not eat it in meals, desserts, or any other place. I tried coconut water, coconut milk, raw coconut and cooked. I do not like it. But I used the oil to make lip gloss & lotion bars for Christmas and I really liked the smell those things had. I know coconut oil is super healthy, so I made the leap and I’m so glad I did!

Basically, you need equal parts butter and coconut oil. Seasonings only consist of salt and crushed red pepper.

Put half the butter & half the coconut oil in the pan and let it melt.

Add your shrimp and season with the salt and pepper.

Flip the shrimp when the first side is pink and add the remaining butter and coconut oil.

Cook until done which should really only be a few minutes. Shrimp cook incredibly fast which makes this another winner in my book.

Final product is something very tasty. Enjoy!

Final plate!

Ingredients

  • 1 TBSP Butter, divided
  • 1 TBSP Coconut oil, divided
  • Salt to taste
  • Crushed red pepper to taste
  • ½ pound of Shrimp (I used size 26-30)

Directions

  1. Melt half the butter and half the coconut oil in a skillet on low to medium heat.
  2. When fully melted, add the shrimp in a single layer.
  3. Season the shrimp with salt and crushed red pepper.
  4. When the first side of the shrimp is pink, flip them over.
  5. Add remaining butter and coconut oil.
  6. Cook until done (several more minutes on side 2).

What do you think?

Fibro Flares

It has been quite a while since I last posted. I’ve been super busy then a fibro flare happened (and is still happening!). This resulted in quite a few 7:30/8pm bedtimes. The exhaustion, fatigue, and pain are overwhelming. In the midst of the flare, I decided to do some research on fibro-sensitive diets (since scrolling on my tablet is about all the energy I had) and came across many interesting articles that suggest gluten-free.

The last time I went gluten-free, I suffered carb flu very badly. Because I’m working through a flare, I didn’t think it would be a good idea to add that on top. So, what have I decided to do? Well, I’m slowly weaning the carbs out. I started with soda, my morning biscuits, and lunchtime rice. This presented a few challenges since I usually have sausage & biscuits for breakfast every morning and a piece of baked chicken with rice for lunch. I can prepare the biscuits ahead, they travel well and only need a quick reheat in the toaster oven at work. Plus I never reheat the chicken, just the rice. However, I really want to feel better. You have no idea how badly I want to feel better.

I decided to still have my sausage, only in crumbles, not in that yummy white gravy (it’s flour-based, blah). I’ve been eating scrambled eggs & sausage for breakfast followed by a mid-morning snack of an avocado with lemon juice. For lunch, I’ve been eating a hamburger patty and salad followed by blackberries & sunflower seeds.

Needless to say, I’m starving by the time I get home. You don’t know how filling carbs are until you don’t eat them anymore. Today is only day 2 so I’m hoping this gets better as the days go by. This is forcing me to expand my taste buds though and I ended making the most delicious shrimp Sunday evening. I will post the recipe in another thread.

I’m curious to see how this turns out and I’m hoping for the best – that I have more energy, less pain, less fatigue, and I can actually do things again!

To all my fellow fibro warriors out there… Keep fighting, friends. This really sucks. I get you. I feel you. I’m proud of everything we manage to get done every day. Even if it’s just washing your hair – small victories add up.

Budget Planning Update

Lol, I love Grumpy Cat! The memes this cat has inspired are some of my favorites.

For some reason, it seems the word “budget” has a bad connotation. I can understand why – it usually means restrictions, cutting back, or completely giving things up. So let’s clear it up!

I’m doing an update on my budgeting plans that started several month back. I’ve learned quite a bit about money management, my own personal spending habits, and will power. Budgeting doesn’t mean restricting – it means creating a roadmap for financial success. A true successful budget doesn’t start by eliminating things. Here’s what I did…

  1. Write down total monthly income.
  2. Write down categories like Home, Auto, Utilities, Food, Savings, and yes, even Fun money.
  3. In each category, write the items that category includes. Example:
    1. Food:
      1. Grocery
      2. Restaurant money
      3. Kiddo’s lunch money
  4. Assign values to EVERYTHING: haircuts, weekly spending money, even that expensive coffee splurge – you have to account for ALL of it.

After that, I had a clear view of where my money was going and where it needed to go. I was able to shift things around so that I had a plan that made sense for my family.

Every month since the budgeting started, something has come up – car repairs, Christmas presents, etc. The Savings category has been there to cover all of it. The idea behind Savings, for me at least, was to save money, but it has mostly been a contingency fund. This has been a huge lifesaver since all these extra things have come up along the way.

So how has it been going? Well, I don’t have a savings stashed but I have been able to address random things that have come up with no trouble while not affecting the other parts of my budget. Budgeting allows me to compartmentalize my money so one thing doesn’t affect another.

So wipe out those negative thoughts about budgeting and ask yourself if compartmentalizing your money would make life easier. If so… try making a budget with categories and see if you can get your money moving where you really want it.

Living with Fibromyalgia

I don’t know where this picture came from… but it’s pretty accurate.

I first saw that picture on Pinterest. I don’t know where it came from or who owns it but it is pretty accurate. I’m 40 years old, but I feel much older than that. I don’t look my age so I hear a lot of “you’re too young to be in pain”. Living with Fibro… what a pain. Literally.

I was first diagnosed in my early 30’s but my symptoms were around for much longer. I have noticed they’ve gotten worse as I’ve gotten older. I think the hardest thing about living with Fibro is getting people to understand how awful you feel.

So what is it like? Well… imagine you’ve been awake for 36 hours. Now imagine you run 30 miles without stopping and then push your car around the block several times. Add having the flu, a hangover, and a sunburn. You’re kinda getting close now. The problem with Fibro is the really extensive list of symptoms that anyone can experience at any time.

Here are the most common:

  • Fatigue
  • Widespread muscle/joint pain
  • Brain fog
  • Sensitivity in all of the 5 senses
  • Insomnia/screwed up sleep patterns
  • Depression

On a good day I wake up exhausted. On a bad day, I wake up feeling like I got hit by a truck the night before. I think anyone fighting this battle will agree the good days are few and far between while the bad days require every ounce of strength to just get out of bed in the morning, never mind going to work and being productive. I have learned, as we all have, to roll with the energy highs and lows. Last night, I fell asleep on the couch at 7:30 and then dragged myself to bed at 8:30. Tonight, maybe 9 or so but I did get a load of laundry done this evening. My sink is currently still full of dirty dishes.

My goal is not be super-mom. I work two jobs, I’m a single mom, my son is autistic, and when you add Fibro to that, well, there’s a whole lot going on in my house. Again, not trying to be super-mom. If I go to bed at night after accomplishing nothing, then so be it. If I manage to get a few things done, then so be it. It is what it is. My house is messy sometimes and I’m ok with that. My son is healthy and happy and that’s all I care about.

In the end, living with Fibro really forces you to prioritize your life. Every day, I wake up and ask myself “What is the most important thing I have to accomplish today?” and focus on that. If I get other stuff done, great. If not, great. Priorities. Priorities. Priorities.

It would be great if people really understood what Fibro does to a person, but the reality is that likely won’t happen. I don’t often talk about my Fibro because it’s so involved and the symptoms vary from day to day, that I would rather spend my time on what’s important: taking care of my son and taking care of myself.

For anyone out there fighting this battle… self care is so important. Whatever it is – massages, naps, warm baths… take care of yourself in any way you need to. Remember – it’s all about priorities.

4 Types of Toxic People & the Clutter They Bring

Mandy Hale has a point!

Ahhh toxic people. They can be hard to identify and even harder to break free from. The problem with toxic people is they are really good at taking: time, energy, emotion… but offer nothing in return except unnecessary clutter.

Decluttering has become increasingly popular over the years and there are many tips on decluttering home spaces, office spaces, vehicles, all the way to decluttering your email. But what about decluttering people?

We’ve all been there at some point. We have a friend, or two, who always seems to be interested in our lives and wants to get together for lunch or coffee. Unfortunately, once we’re there, we find the entire conversation about them and their problems. Nothing supportive comes from the conversation and we end up leaving confused and emotionally drained.

When I went through my awakening (not really sure what else to call it!) two years ago, I decluttered people from my life. It was a bad time overall for me, but I found that there were many people who were not being emotionally supportive when I really needed them. I felt like I had to be OK all the time around them when in reality, I was anything but ok. I cleared everyone from my Facebook page and slowly I started adding people back. I got rid of friends & family. It was hard, but I was so emotionally stretched, I didn’t really see any other option.

As of now, I still don’t have all those people back on my page and you know what? It’s completely fine. Toxic people not only drain us but they really do clutter our lives. I know my example may seem extreme to some but stop and think about all those people on your friends page. Are you really talking to all of them? Or are they there because you feel obligated to have them there?

Getting back to the title of the post: Toxic People and Their Clutter.

  1. The Frenemy.
  2. The Liar.
  3. The Drama Queen/King.
  4. The Narcissist.

I’m sure there are others 🙂 Let’s start with the Frenemy. This is the person who constantly corrects you and tries to change things about you but deep inside, they harbor jealousy for one reason or another. They present themselves as friend but behind your back they are presenting a different face. They insult you, spill your secrets, and never really compliment you on successes but rather imply that you ‘got that award because of pure luck’. You feel like you have to apologize for your successes instead of being proud.

The Liar. Hmm… this is the person who never seems to give you the full story about anything. They say one thing but then you find out the truth was either a little off their original story or something COMPLETELY different. You end up doubting them and wondering if what they are telling you is true.

The Drama Queen/King. This person is my favorite, purely because they tend just to be completely ridiculous. This person cannot handle mellow or laid back. There has to be action or something happening and if there isn’t, they create it. They get a rush from being in the middle of chaos. They don’t know how to operate without a problem consuming them. You end up constantly saving them from their own messes and nothing you do is good enough because… when that problem is gone… another quickly emerges. You may also encounter the Complaining Drama Queen/King who only wants to complain. They never seem to want a solution to their problems, or to do any kind of work associated with fixing them. They just want to use you as a giant ear. And don’t even bother trying to discuss a problem of your own.

The Narcissist. This one is complicated because they seem to be 100% invested in you but slowly you start seeing little things emerge that make you question yourself. A narcissist will never be responsible for anything. In every situation, they are either victim or hero, but never the person who caused any problems. Narcissists are especially dangerous. They will make you question your own sanity. They never seem to ‘remember saying that’ or ‘promising to do this’.

The bottom line here is we all need people in our lives who are supportive in our endeavors. We need our own cheering section. Decluttering people is harder than decluttering your bedroom but the concepts are still the same. Are these people adding negativity? Or are they uplifting and encouraging? Do they truly care about you and your life? Do they offer constructive advice hoping you succeed or do they point out all your faults?

Asking tough questions is the only way to identify the people who are just hanging around but not really providing much value. It also helps identify those friends who we should spend our time and energy on and those we should let go. And yes, this applies to family as well. While it might be tougher to declutter family, sometimes its necessary. I’ve been through this myself and while its painful to know that there are family members who do not support me, it’s reassuring to know that the ones I’ve chosen to keep have my back and want to see me succeed.

So how do you get rid of these toxic people? There’s no real right or wrong way. The goal is to invest less and less time in them until they stop bothering you. If you’re dealing with a narcissist though, I would advise cutting ties with them quickly. They may call you names or bad-mouth you to your circle of friends but those who really know you will see through it. You can’t help what others say but you can help how you react to it. Rise above and move on knowing that you’ve made a decision that will save your mental and emotional energy for something that really matters.

3 Top Homemade Gifts

I made a lot of gifts this year for Christmas. I list them all below and list my 3 favorites at the end of the post (no jumping ahead peeking!)

  1. Milk Bath. I found a fabulous recipe for milk bath using powdered milk, corn starch, and baking soda. The recipe also called for Epsom salt and essential oils but I left those out to avoid skin sensitivity issues.
  2. Lotion Bars. My hands get so dry with eczema during the winter time. I found a recipe using coconut oil, olive oil and beeswax for lotion bars. Again, you can add essential oils but some of the ladies these went to have skin allergies. I like the smell of the plain bars. They healed my eczema cuts fast!
  3. Lip Gloss. Another recipe using coconut oil, beeswax, and shea butter. Essential oils can be added to this too but I left that out.

There are pictures below of each in various stages of completeness. I was very surprised at how easy it was to make the bars and lip gloss.

I also made dip mixes and flavored salts. All the recipes are below.

Matcha Salt

  • 1/2 Cup Sea Salt
  • 1/2 Cup Matcha Powder

Coffee Paprika Salt

  • 1 Tbsp ground coffee
  • 1 Tbsp paprika
  • 2 Tbsp sea salt

Fiesta Dip Mix Spices

  • 1 1/2 tsp dried parsley
  • 1 1/2 tsp dried minced onion
  • 3/4 tsp dried chives
  • 1 1/2 tsp chili powder
  • 3/4 tsp ground cumin
  • 1/4 tsp salt

Dill Dip Mix Spices

  • 1 tsp dill weed
  • ¼ tsp seasoned salt
  • 1 tsp onion flakes
  • 1 tsp parsley flakes

Ranch Dip Mix Spices

  • 2 tsp dried parsley flakes
  • 1 1/2 tsp thyme
  • 1 tsp dried onion flakes
  • 1/4 tsp garlic powder
  • 1/8 tsp salt
  • 1/8 tsp coarsely ground black pepper

Italian Dip Mix

  • ¾ tsp garlic powder
  • ¾ tsp onion powder
  • 1/3 tsp paprika
  • ½ tsp celery seed
  • 1/4 tsp seasoned salt

I have to say though the absolute favorite gifts I made were the books I made for my three nieces. They are 17, 14, and 11. For the oldest I made a book about adulting since she will be heading to college next fall. For the middle one, I made a book filled with beauty tips. Finally, for the youngest, I made a book about being an Empath and how to implement self care while dealing with the emotions of other people. Sadly, I have no pictures of these to share!

Each book had some doodles from me and funny memes. I loved putting these together. It was so much fun to exercise my creativity and put together really unique gifts. The two older girls messaged me thanking me for the books and I was told the youngest really loved hers as well.

I highly recommend doing something like this. It’s so much more personal and unique. Homemade gifts put the focus back where it belongs – on showing others how much you care about them and appreciate them.

4 Tips for New Years Resolutions That Stick!

Happy New Year!

It’s the last day of 2018 and while most people are thinking about the parties they’ll be attending tonight, tomorrow will bring a new year and new resolutions. Why is it that resolutions seem to last all of 45 minutes and then they’re forgotten? We’re back to our previous habits and disappointment in our lack of willpower quickly sets in. Resolution burnout combined with post-holiday blues makes January seem like a dismal month.

A quick web search for top resolutions of 2018 was very illuminating on how generic people get with their goals. Is it any wonder they don’t last? Why not change that this year? Below I list my favorite tips for setting resolutions in a way that they’ll last more than the first week of January.

Tips:
1. Set SMART Goals. SMART is an acronym for Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Relevant, and Time-Sensitive and is a very popular tool used in business. The problem most people have with goal-setting is not making them specific enough. Example: “I want to exercise more”. Ok… more than what? If you set a goal that has specific criteria and constraints, then you will know when you’re achieving it. How do you know you’re exercising more? If you change that to “I want to exercise 3 times a week for 30 minutes each time” then you will know once you hit day 3 that you’re succeeding at your goal. The idea here is to remove any possible ambiguity that provides a “way out” of the goal.

2. Have an end goal in mind but set small goals that will eventually lead there. “I want to lose 50 pounds this year”. While a good goal, it’s also a large one and very daunting. Instead of focusing on this large of an objective, set smaller, achievable goals that create a road map to where you eventually want to be. “For the month of January,  I will work on removing sugary drinks from my diet. For the month of February, I will add vegetables to every meal.” Small goals that are less intimidating and easier to achieve but eventually add up to the overall goal.

3. Positive, not Negative. Most resolutions people set require giving up things. Weight loss requires giving up tasty foods; spending less money requires giving up frivolous spending like gourmet coffee; and so on. It’s very easy to get caught up on the things we have to give up to achieve our goals, which we then start to rationalize as too constricting and then the resolutions fizzle out. Instead of thinking about what we have to give up, focus more on the positive aspects. Spending less money also gives you a chance to get creative with budgeting. Losing weight gives you a chance to try new food and experiment with unfamiliar ingredients. The more positive you are, the more likely you are to stick to your goals.

4. Ask for help if you get stuck. We all need a helping hand now and then. Sticking with the weight loss resolution, if you find yourself eating the same things because they’re tried and true recipes, ask your friends for their favorite healthy options. Search online or Pinterest for new things to try. Keep it fresh and exciting and you won’t suffer burn out.

New Year’s Resolutions are a chance to start over and make improvements we’ve been thinking about but you don’t have to wait for a new year to implement any type of change. You can always choose to reinvent yourself in a new way. The first step is always the hardest, but it gets easier.

Happy New Year and Happy Resolution Setting!

Living with Autism

This post actually took me a really long time to write because this is so close to my heart.

My son was placed on the spectrum over the summer and while I was not at all surprised, I was very annoyed that it took this long for the diagnosis to happen. Several times, teachers recommended visiting the doctor about my son’s classroom behaviors and each time, I was told they do not test based on the recommendation of teachers.

Fast forward to 5th grade… I had to take my son for booster shots in April for middle school and the doctor we saw pulled me aside and asked if he’d ever been tested. I was so angry and she could see it. She responded by apologizing over and over. My only thought was “all this time he could’ve been receiving the help he needs instead of struggling”.

I’m writing this post now to encourage all parents out there – if you have any suspicion about your child, push the doctor until they agree to help. Even if the evaluations determine your child is not on the spectrum, it is better to know than to feel how I felt – that all this time your child could’ve been receiving help and accommodations at school but wasn’t.

Its easy to say “find a new doctor” but as any parent of an autistic child can tell you, it is anything but easy to change anything in their “normal”. Whether its food, or the person who cuts their hair, or the doctor they see – routines are very difficult to change.

This actually happened earlier today – something about my son’s normal changed and it took over an hour to get his mood to stabilize. He was angry, crying, confused and we spent almost 30 minutes sitting in the car at Target talking through all the things swimming around his mind. The only way I’ve found to work through these times is to list a solution or two for each item bothering him. Usually, it’s a landslide – one trigger opens up a storeroom of problems he’s been holding onto.

I’m very new at this and feel very alone – as I’m sure most parents do. However, I’ve realized that what needs to change is my approach to parenting. I have to keep reminding myself that he processes things differently than everyone else and how we work through the problems he’s having has to be different as well. I’m always on the lookout for tips on how to do this because some days, I will try anything.

For other parents out there going through this – I wish you the best. It is a daily struggle for me sometimes, but I know with God’s help, I can be an amazing mom.