I’m sure at some point I’ll need to sort my posts because I can already tell they will cover a variety of topics, mostly in response to something I’ve seen or read.
This one is about forgiveness. I saw on my Facebook feed something that said “you can’t forgive someone who isn’t sorry”. I think people have this forgiveness thing backwards. It isn’t a reward for remorse. The purpose of forgiveness is to close a door for yourself so you don’t keep letting in something hurtful.
As someone who has had to forgive a lot of people for a lot of things, I can honestly say the following:
- There is no right path to forgiveness.
- The deeper the hurt, the longer it takes to forgive.
- The goal is to get to a point where the thought of the other person or their actions no longer affects your current mood or emotional state.
- It could very likely require therapy.
- It will require changing yourself.